It’s
funny how you go along in life, time passes by so quickly and then you suddenly
realize….YOU are middle-aged.
I used to think that middle-aged meant someone
well into their 50s - mostly because I never really did the literal math of a
middle-aged person. But if you consider that the average life span for a woman
these days is around 81 years, then I most certainly am middle-aged.
I have
these moments when I wonder if I’m having a mid-life crisis. I think we all
know how that stereotype plays out in men – buys sports car, divorces wife for
younger woman, blah blah blah. But for a woman, what does a mid-life crisis
look like?
Clearly,
not everyone runs off with a youngster, buys a Ferrari or tries to create an alternate
reality (where others still see you as a 25 year old) if they’re content in
their lives. For me, I think crisis plays out in self-reflection,
self-realization and facing the inevitable that each day is a little closer to
death. That might sound a bit dark on the surface, but if you are as happy-go-lucky
as I am, it morphs into something beautiful and ultimately fulfilling.
At this
stage in my life, I just want to be happy and healthy. I want to travel and see
incredible things with my eyes that my mouth cannot explain. I am incredibly
fortunate to have found someone to love who loves me back, unconditionally. We
have little fur babies who are such a joy (our “kids”) and who also love unconditionally.
We have a loving and supportive family and a small circle of people we can
actually call friends. We have all of our
basic needs met – food on the table, roof over our heads, etc.
I don’t
need millions of dollars in the bank to make me happy. Money cannot buy my happiness.
Some people think differently. I say to those people: you might get everything
you want, but is it what you need? For your soul?
Too
often, I see people chasing dollar signs – mostly because they have to stay
fashioned in their luxury cars, and be able to afford those McMansions and the
trendiest clothes. But if all those things burst into flames right now, what
would they have left? Sure, money makes things a little easier, but it’s not everything.
Now, I’m not saying that you can’t have it all. I’m just saying that one day all
those material possessions won’t matter.
At the
end of your days, if you can look back and say, “I was loved,” then you’ve
lived a great life! And that can mean love from anyone – your partner, friends, family, pets – whoever you have in
your life that brings you joy! Love comes in all shapes, colors, sizes and
sources. If you have it, consider yourself blessed! And if you give it, then
you have brought it all full circle.
Love
goes on long after we do.
Now, that’s
a nice legacy! And if realizing what’s most important is my mid-life crisis? I’ll
take it.
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